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Be Safe When Chatting and Dating

Be safe and sensible when using this service. Think extremely carefully before putting personal details in your profile, or in any of your messages.

Do not include your phone number, your real email address, your address, where you work etc., unless you are absolutely sure you can trust the person you are communicating with.

If in 1-2-1 text chat you choose to set up a date you may need to share some contact information with the other person. Why not use a free email account like Hotmail or Yahoo?

If you want to share phone numbers use a mobile phone number that you can easily change, like a MobAlias - a Mobile Phone Alias Number for Privacy and Safety.

And don't forget, if you telephone someone you can block your number from appearing in their Caller ID.

While texting other people go with your feelings; be careful, and don’t hesitate to stop communication if you feel someone is:

	Lying to you.
	Trying to pressurise you into a date, or find out your personal information.
	Ignoring your questions.
	Inconsistent with their information (look back through your texts with them to check).
	Makes you feel weird or uncomfortable.

The Date

If you go on a date it's a good idea to organise a double date so that you can both bring someone along, or even better go out with a group of joint friends.

Make sure you meet in a public place that you know and where it is guaranteed there will be other people around.

You want to end up in a secluded area on your own, so pick a table/bar that's well in view.

	Do not arrange to be picked up or taken home (remember your personal details need to stay that way!), so make your own travel arrangements.
	Tell friends or family about your date: tell them the information you have about the person you are meeting (like their name and contact number - if you don't have this much info you shouldn't be meeting them!), and ask them to be available in case you need some support. Tell them where you are going, how long you expect to be, and what time you expect to be home. Call them during the date, and let them know when you have arrived back home safely.
	Never be afraid to cut short a meeting if there’s anything you’re not completely happy about.
	Take a mobile phone with you (fully charged & with plenty of credit) and arrange to call a friend during the date, or for them to call you during the date and check you are ok.
	Come prepared with a plan so that you have an excuse to get away whenever you like. If you have arranged for a friend to call you during the date, give them a code word in advance. If you say it they can pretend there's an emergency you need to leave for.
	Use your common sense. Trust your instincts. Don't worry about seeming overly cautious, anyone worth dating will understand.
	Always keep an eye on your own drink to make sure it isn't spiked.
	Stay in control - and don't get too drunk. If you are asked to do something you don't want to do - say no and be forcefully assertive when you say it.
	And finally - after you've had a few dates... use a condom.

Be Safe and Enjoy Your Date!